Wednesday, February 7, 2024

When I write...

I'm not poetic, just love to write, When emotions flow, day or night. In writing, I find a calming place, No judgment here, just thoughts to embrace.

Pouring my heart onto the page, A personal journey, like an open stage. Creativity sparks with each line, Simple words, yet they intertwine.

No need for fancy rhymes or rules, Just a canvas for expressing my tools. In the simplicity of words, I see, A reflection of the truest me.

Tuesday, February 6, 2024

Choose your hard

Leaving is hard, staying is harder

Choose your hard


Being alone is hard, being with the wrong person is harder

Choose your hard


Working out is hard, being unfit and dependent is harder

Choose your hard


Managing conflicts is hard, avoiding and ignoring them is harder

Choose your hard


Life is all about making a choice, 

And there are never right choices, its always lesser wrong choices.

Thursday, October 26, 2023

What's ahead?

In the midst of this daunting cost, When it seems the world's against me, Each day, new hurdles, sorrows amassed, What more trials await, we'll see.

The journey feels endless, long, Yet I sense it's a storm before the calm, Life's way of making me strong, Teaching me resilience, like a healing balm.

Perhaps it's all for the years ahead, My intuition whispers of something divine, A beauty that's not hurried, not sped, But must endure, in sorrow we'll refine.

This hope within the despair sustains, For the moment yet to arrive, Through sorrow and struggle, we gain, Strength to thrive, to truly come alive.

So I press on with unwavering grace, Waiting for that day to break through, In the meantime, I'll keep my pace, Growing stronger, and believing, it's true

Wednesday, September 20, 2023

The DDLJ lesson

 "Zindagi ke har mor par tumhe do raste milenge...

Ek sahi. Ek galat. Galat rasta bohot aasan hoga, tumhe apni taraf kichega.

Aur sahi rasta bohot mushkil hoga, us mein bohot si musibaatein, bohot si parashaniyaan hongi.

Agar tum galat raste par chalonge, toh ho sakta hai shuruat mein tumhe bohot kamyabi mile, bohot khushiyaan mile..

Magar aanth mein tumhari haar hongi. Aur agar sahi raste par chalonge, toh bhale hi shuruat mein

Tumhe kadam kadam mein thokadein mile, musibaaton ka samna karna pade, pareshaniyaan ho..

Magar aanth mein hamesha jeet hongi."

Monday, November 23, 2020

Vipassana - Embracing equanimity

It's been quite many years since I was wanting to attend a Vipassana course having heard it from many around me. And finally I was able to do one in the month of Dec 2019.

While I was prepared for the 10 day no talking mode, what I wasn't prepared were the day long meditation sessions. It seemed quite a task to be meditating for hours together initially. However, as days passed, I kind of started enjoying it.

I won't get into what happens in a Vipassana course, you'd know it better if you attend it once. What I'll write about is how Vipassana changed me.

Before attending the Vipassana course, like most of us I was affected by all things happening around me - the good and the bad. Getting super happy with the good things in life and angry or sad with the bad things. One of the many things that Vipassana teaches is to accept both the good or the bad with equanimity. DO NOT get happy with the good or sad with the bad. While as simple as it sounds, it's pretty much difficult practising it. Having been conditioned since childhood to react in a certain way, this sudden change of practising equanimity wasn't going to come easy.

However, the 10 days of Vipasanna, made it a little less difficult if not easy. After the course, I noticed that I wasn't really getting affected or bothered by some of the things which I initially would. I was more tolerant and accepting towards everything in general. The constant negative thoughts were slowly going away and I was as much accepting towards someone whom I got along with as well as someone who I couldnt stand. It gave me a lot of inner peace and the realization that embracing such a habit of equanimity could be so much life changing!

This change of mind was reflective in both personal and professional life.

Sunday, October 21, 2018

Choose what you fight for!

I recently came across a wonderful answer from a successful woman when she was asked to share her secret. Her prompt response was -

I stopped fighting those who gossipped about me ....
I stopped fighting with my in laws...
I stopped fighting for attention...
I stopped fighting to meet public expectations of me...
I stopped fighting for my rights with stupid people...
I left such fights for those who have nothing else to do...
And I started fighting for -
my vision
my dreams
my ideas and
my destiny
The day I gave up on the small fights is the day I started becoming successful.
I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights for small fighters

This made me ponder over some fights I have myself taken up over a period of time. Other than getting some self satisfaction, the only way it helped me was in the form of more stress. Yes, I did get some things I wanted, but was it worth it? The amount of time and energy in trying to fight all the small battles was definitely not worth the investment.

It is important to speak up, but knowing when to and when not to is equally important. Rather than looking at the short term, the key is to focus on the long term. Half the battle is won when you start achieving your dreams and visions while others keep criticizing you :)

Some battles are not worth your time, choose your battles wisely!! 

Sunday, September 9, 2018

Whats in for me...


Recently I was killing time browsing over the internet and chanced upon a brilliant video by Jack Welch that explains the role of a leader -


One very important point made here is as a leader how crucial it is to let your team know - "What's in for them..." Organizations hire people to deliver results for them which is understandable. However, the point that is missed is employees are also looking at growing themselves and carve a path that is advantageous for them as well. So as a leader, when we are trying to bring in a new product or a new technology or a change of vision in the organization, it is but inherent that we would talk about the value addition that the change brings for the company. But in majority of the cases we forget to stress on the value add it has for the employees. It could be as simple as learning a new tech, or expanding the domain or diving into the futuristic trends. Focusing on disseminating such information means your employees equally understand the value and passionately work towards achieving it.

Organizations that have long staying good and passionate employees are the ones that consider providing a value add to their employees as much as to the organization. The best secret of an organization's good health and long term sustainability is being able to create and retain a talented pool of employees by truly empowering them and be able to answer the question for them - 'What's in for me?'